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How a raisin (yes, a raisin) can transform your sex life


Yes, really (Picture: Supplied)

In 2018, after Dr Lori Brotto’s critically acclaimed book Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire was published, the clinical psychologist and sex expert was inundated with requests from people asking how they could sign up for the programme.

For Brotto, who recently appeared on Netflix’s The Principles Of Pleasure, the logical next step was to deliver the treatment manuals she’d been using in her research programmes in a way that people could use on their own at home. That’s how her new book came about.

It’s a practical workbook that uses mindfulness – being in the present – and dried fruit, no less, to treat sexual problems.

‘Chapter one is entitled “How a Raisin Can Be All You Need for Mindful Sex”!’ says Brotto. ‘The raisin is a powerful way to introduce people to mindfulness.’ She says people should undertake what she calls a mindful “raisin-ingesting” exercise and ask themselves three questions.

The first is ‘What did I observe as I was ingesting this raisin?’ Brotto says to focus on the sounds, the colours, how soon you start salivating as you raise the raisin to your lips.

The second is, ‘How is eating the raisin in this way different from how I normally eat raisins?’ This is where you can become aware of any patterns you fall into, such as whether you usually take a whole handful or swallow without chewing.

The third question, she says, is the most critical. ‘How was eating a raisin in this way related to my sexual health or difficulties?’

‘People can really see the link between slowing down, paying attention, being non-judgemental and noticing brain/body connections,’ says Brotto.

By being mindful, in other words. But what is ‘mindful sex’?

‘It’s bringing present-moment, non-judgemental awareness to sexuality,’ says Brotto. ‘The multitasking most people do during the day doesn’t turn off during sex, so there are distractions, from the benign – “Did I turn the stove off?” – to
more negative questions such as “Will I reach orgasm?”’

A busy brain is bad during sex because of the brain/body connection, says Brotto. ‘The brain instructs the body when to respond – increased blood flow, vaginal lubrication and other signs of erotic excitement – and only if we are paying attention does the brain notice those signs and instruct the body to continue.’

Her team’s research shows mindful sex can improve sex in several ways – by increasing in-tune-with-yourself interoception (the perception of knowing what’s going on in your own body), boosting self-compassion, and decreasing self-criticism and depression.

A busy brain is bad if you want good sex (Picture: Shutterstock / MBLifestyle)

While the book is written primarily for women – Brotto says about 40 per cent of women over a year will say they have ongoing, distressing and interfering sexual health issues – it also includes information for men and gender-diverse people.
The book’s audience is broad,’ she says, ‘but it’s really meant for the person who really wants to improve their sex life.’

In a relationship? You don’t even both need to practice mindfulness to have better sex, and Brotto says improvements were retained a year later. This all sounds great. But isn’t mindful sex just something else to worry about during sex? ‘You’re already having sex,’ says Brotto. ‘You may as well show up for it.’ Now, go eat some raisins!

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